Building Self-esteem Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, Melody Beattie (Hazelden Information Education, 1996) Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives, Pia Mellody (Harper San Francisco, 1989)   Mood-Altering Strategies Sounds of Healing, A Physician Reveals the Therapeutic Power of Sound, Voice, and Music, Mitchell L. Gaynor, M.D. (Broadway Books, 1999) Sound Body, Sound Mind: Music for Healing by Andrew Weil, M.D. is designed to help draw a person into and through the entire range of brainwave states, from beta (the waking state,) down to alpha, (the daydreaming and light meditation state,) and then further down into theta, (the level of the subconscious). Theta is generally only achieved in dreaming and deep meditation. Finally the listener goes down into delta, or deep sleep levels, with "just enough alpha to keep a link to the conscious mind," according to Dr. Weil's newsletter. The recording is available at bookstores and record stores, or directly from Upaya at 800-354-3943. Steve Halpern, Ph.D., a pioneer in the therapeutic use of sound and music, has released more than 50 albums on his Inner Peace and SoundWave 2000 labels, designed to evoke a healing response in the listener. Visit www.innerpeace.com The Ultimate Container Garden: All You Need to Know to Create Plantings for Spring, Summer, Autumn, and Winter, Stephanie Donaldson (Lorenz Books, 2001) Outdoor Plants for Indoor Rooms, Kathy Sheldon (Lark Books, 2001) Perfect Small Gardens, Peter McHoy (Lorenz Books, 2002) Amaryllis bulbs are available October 23 through February 14 in a variety of pots, both plain and decorative, at prices ranging from $19.95 to $59.95 from Harry and David, www.harryanddavid.com, 800-547-3033. Paper Whites in a blue delft-style bowl are available from September 15 through December for $16.99, from Figis, www.figis.com, 1-715-341-1363. Four Months of Spring Color and Fragrance (Dec-Mar), $125, from Gardener's Supply Company, www.gardeners.com, 800-427-3363. Keeping Work in Balance For soothing music, Peter Janson, Sometimes From Here, from Eastern Woods Music, www.EasternWoodsMusic.com. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff at Work: Simple Ways to Minimize Stress and Conflict While Bringing Out the Best in Yourself and Others, Richard Carlson (Hyperion, 1988) Generations at Work: Managing the Clash of Veterans, Boomers, Xers, and Nexters in Your Workplace, Ron Zemke (AMACOM,1999) How to Deal with Difficult People, a two-cassette audio seminar by Dr. Rick Brinkman and Dr. Rick Kirschner. From CareerTrack Audiotape Seminars, 3085 Center Green Drive, Boulder, CO 80301, 303-440-7440. A seminar on "Conflict Management Skills for Women" is presented for a reasonable cost on a regular basis in most U.S. metropolitan areas by Skillpath Seminars, www.skillpath.com, 800-873-7545.